About This Book
Biblical submission is not a suicide pact. Yet, misinterpreted scriptures, misplaced loyalties, and misunderstood traditions have created a culture where battered wives suffer quietly while abusers hide behind spiritual language and religious respectability.
Battered but Not Beaten confronts this crisis head-on. Born from a journey of scriptural study, legal research, and pastoral reflection, this book exposes a sobering reality: many long-standing approaches to “marriage problems” have enabled abusers rather than protected the wounded. Pastor Greg Neal offers a guide that is biblical, courageous, and compassionate to correct these misinterpretations.
In these pages, you will:
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Receive clear biblical teaching on violence, protection, separation, and accountability.
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Understand the psychology of the abuser and why church culture often has empowered him.
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Discover practical steps for victims seeking safety, clarity, and healing, as well as guidance for pastors creating a culture of protection.
God never intended for marriage to be a prison. Whether you are a pastor, a church member, a victim, or an abuser, this book serves as a wake-up call to the body of Christ. It is time to protect the vulnerable and restore righteousness in the home and the church.
Author: Greg Neal | Pages: 248 | Chapters: 39 | Format: Paperback
Chapter Titles
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Definition: The Battered Wife
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Battered but Not Beaten: The Silent Suffering of Wives in the Church
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A Letter to the Battered Wife
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When Leadership Becomes Lordship: Recognizing the Battered Wives in Our Congregation
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When “He Didn’t Hit Her” Becomes a Lie Against Scripture
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The Children Are Watching: Forgotten Victims of Domestic Cruelty
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Satan’s Effective Weapon: Emotional Abuse and the Invisible Bruises
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Gethsemane: When the Soul Bleeds
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When Gethsemane Walks into Your Office: Ministering to the Emotionally Wounded
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When Flight Becomes Faith: When a Wife Must Flee for Her Safety
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When Obedience to God Overrides Control in Marriage
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When Separation Becomes Sanctification: Obeying God Rather than Man in Marriage
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Sacred Vows and Safe Lives: Restoring the Balance Between Covenant and Protection
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Understanding the Law: When Abuse Becomes a Crime
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Selective Outrage: When the Church Shouts for Accountability but Hides the Battered Wife
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When the Abuser Becomes the Mission Field: Confronting, Correcting, and Calling to Repentance
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Educating the Church: Turning Ignorance into Understanding
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Common Church Misconceptions about “Staying and Enduring”: Clarifying Biblical Endurance and Protecting the Vulnerable
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From Battering to Violence: The Escalating Cycle
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The Panic and the Performance: When the Abuser Fights to Save Face
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The Battle for the Next Generation of Men: Rearing Spiritual Husbands Before They Ever Marry
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When the Abuser Refuses Repentance: Church Discipline and Biblical Separation
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When the Church Becomes the Refuge: Building a Culture of Protection and Healing
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The Making of a Misguided Man: How Emotional Abusers Are Formed—Even in the Church
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The Pornography Connection: When Private Sin Becomes Public Abuse
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The Spirit of Ownership: When Love Turns into Control
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A Letter to the Church
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When the Abuser Is in the Pulpit: The Angry Pulpit and the Broken Home
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When Love Turns Against You: The Family and Friends Who Side with the Abuser
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The Sharia Spirit: When the Wife Batterer Imitates Islamic Law More Than the Gospel
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The Strength of a Gentle Leader: Contrasting Abuse with Authentic Biblical Leadership
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Vows, Violence, and the Question of Divorce
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The End of the Road: When Emotional Abuse Turns Deadly
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Before Abuse Begins: A Warning to the Next Generation
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Shepherding in the Storm: Loving Both, Protecting One
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A Letter to the Batterer
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When Restoration Is Possible: Rebuilding What Sin Has Broken
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When Restoration Is Possible: Steps Toward Biblical Reconciliation and Trust Rebuilding
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When Forgiveness Becomes Freedom: The Healing Work of Grace After the Battle
